When it comes to a wedding, there is no greater honor than being asked to be a bridesmaid. Especially if it’s one of your closest and dearest friends. It can be an exciting time and a great thing to be part of it. But what is exactly involved in being a bridesmaid? In a way, this all depends on the bride. They may want your full involvement, or they may only need your help with certain things. It’s best to take their lead. But there are certain things you should involve yourself in, and some things you should not be doing. This is why I thought it was worth putting together some essential tips to help you. If you are about to be a bridesmaid, then take note. This is what we should and shouldn’t be doing. I hope it helps you keep on the good side of the bride.
Help out with the planning
It’s likely you were asked to be a bridesmaid about a year in advance. But don’t let the wedding date fool you. It may seem far away now, but trust me that date will creep nearer very quickly. There is plenty you can do ahead of time. Stay as organized as possible by keeping a time line of the events, a spreadsheet of the bridesmaids’ contact information. Anything that you can do help be organized. It is also worth planning in advance in regards to your budgets. There may be expenses you will need to make such as travel, accommodation and other bits and pieces. Keep track of all you have to pay out for so you have plenty of time to prepare. Being organized perhaps won’t stop there being a lot of stress, but will help you stay on top of things and be prepared.
Offer your services up for DIY details
Depending on the type of wedding your bride is going for, there could be many DIY jobs you can get involved in. Even if you just recommend suppliers or offer advice on things. Invitations tend to be one of the biggest things a bride needs help with. From perhaps creating their own design and vision to ordering up the perfect bespoke design. This is where you could help the bride out. Even just by recommending companies like Paper Themes personalised wedding stationery or something similar.
Organize the bachelorette party
Don’t just assume the best idea for the bachelorette party is the stereotypical night out partying. Perhaps adding a couple of male strippers into the mix. Try and remember the type of person the bride is. Then plan it around what would make her happy. While you want everyone to have fun, remember it is about the bride. It’s easy to get wrapped up in the whole event and make it about you, the organizer. Even considering the other bridesmaids if there is any. But the whole thing is about the bride. If you are unsure about what to organize don’t be afraid to ask the bride; not everything has to be a surprise.
Be a good support
Do not mistake being part of the wedding for controlling it. Disagreements between bridesmaids are bound to happen, especially when you are spending a lot of time together. Disagreements between you and the bride may happen. There’s a fine line between being proactive and being overbearing. If you want to be the best you can be then the only way is to be a good support to the bride. Be part of the team instead of the leader. This is an emotional and overwhelming time for the bride, so don’t add to the drama by spitting your dummy out when things don’t suit you. Being a supportive friend will mean much more to the bride. Another thing to try and keep on top of is potential competition between you and other bridesmaids. This won’t help the situation and could make things awkward amongst the wedding party.
Don’t moan about the bridesmaid dress
Of course, you have a duty to stand by your bride at the ceremony. Organize the bachelorette party, and help out. There is one other essential thing that you must do. That is not to moan about the dress you have to wear. It might be ugly. It might be an unflattering color. Heck, it might even make your body shape look totally different. But you mustn’t moan. You must say yes to the dress. Try and think about how your bride feels in this situation. There may be a few bridesmaids that they have to consider. Not everyone is the same height, weight, and body shape. It’s near impossible to find something that everyone will be happy with. It’s one day in your life where you will need to suck up your opinions and just be happy about it. Don’t give your bride another stress to think about it.
Try not to overdo it with the champagne
Of course, it’s a party. There will be drinks flowing. But try and remember whose day it is. Don’t get too drunk or overdo it with the champagne. The last thing you will want to do is make a fool of yourself or show up your best friend in some way. However, do let loose and have a great time. That’s exactly what the bride wants to happen. Just make sure you know when you are at your limits. It’s just about being sensible. When it’s your day, you can do what you want. Plus, sometimes a bridesmaid has a duty to mingle with the guests, perhaps help to keep things in order. So when you have had too much to drink this can affect your ability to perform those duties.
Be prepared for anything
Finally, a good bridesmaid is always prepared for every eventuality. If the bride cries, you are on hand with the tissues. If she’s feeling a little sweaty, then you pull out the perfume or deodorant. This is where it’s handy to have a little box tucked away somewhere to help you deal with every possible thing that could go wrong. Or just being able to be on hand just when the bride needs you the most.
I hope this guide and the tips provided help you be an awesome bridesmaid.